an allergy to uncertainty

An Allergy To Uncertainty

When last we met I introduced you to Dr. Michel Dugas.  One of Dr. Dugas’ claims to fame involves a clever metaphor: anxiety (specifically GAD or Generalized Anxiety Disorder) as an allergy to uncertainty. To Sneeze or Not To Sneeze Think about an allergy to dust or pollen.  If anyone on earth gets a pile…

why don't we stop worrying

Why Don’t We Stop Worrying?

Worry Worry Worry In my last post I promised to get into more detail about dealing with the anxiety and worries connected to uncertainty.  Now, worry is no fun.  So then, why don’t we stop worrying?  It seems pretty straightforward, on the surface of it.  If you are tired of worrying about uncertainty — which…

anxiety is not norad

Anxiety Is Not NORAD

Sometimes it seems like anxiety is trying to tell us something.  Those tingly feelings in our guts do feel like a warning signal; alerting us to something serious and best not ignored.  However, anxiety is not NORAD (North American Aerospace Defense Command). I was listening recently to a discussion between 4 psychologists.  One of them,…

tolerating calm is difficult

Tolerating Calm, Part 3

Tolerating Calm, Part 3 OK, I was planning to wrap-up this whole tolerating calm thing today.  However… it ain’t gonna happen.  I’m having too much fun writing about it.  For the 3 people reading this blog (Hi Mom!) I promise I’ll get to the “how to fix it” stuff.  Later. Two weeks ago, I wrote…

tolerating calm feels uneasy

Tolerating Calm, Part 2

Part 2 of Tolerating Calm How does one tolerate calm, when the state of calm can actually trigger anxiety? Well, psychotherapy has been on about this for a long time.  It’s a big part of what I do every day. It Takes a Village I’m not alone and psychotherapy itself is not alone in helping…

calm and relaxed state

Tolerating Calm

“Tolerating calm.”  Say what, now? I’ll admit, when I first heard this phrase – tolerating calm – it sounded odd; almost an oxymoron.  What’s to tolerate?  It’s… calm. Calm itself can be quite pleasant.  The young folk might use the word “chill” (or at least they did at some point; I can’t keep up with…