anxiety is not norad

Anxiety Is Not NORAD

Sometimes it seems like anxiety is trying to tell us something.  Those tingly feelings in our guts do feel like a warning signal; alerting us to something serious and best not ignored.  However, anxiety is not NORAD (North American Aerospace Defense Command). I was listening recently to a discussion between 4 psychologists.  One of them,…

tolerating calm is difficult

Tolerating Calm, Part 3

Tolerating Calm, Part 3 OK, I was planning to wrap-up this whole tolerating calm thing today.  However… it ain’t gonna happen.  I’m having too much fun writing about it.  For the 3 people reading this blog (Hi Mom!) I promise I’ll get to the “how to fix it” stuff.  Later. Two weeks ago, I wrote…

tolerating calm feels uneasy

Tolerating Calm, Part 2

Part 2 of Tolerating Calm How does one tolerate calm, when the state of calm can actually trigger anxiety? Well, psychotherapy has been on about this for a long time.  It’s a big part of what I do every day. It Takes a Village I’m not alone and psychotherapy itself is not alone in helping…

calm and relaxed state

Tolerating Calm

“Tolerating calm.”  Say what, now? I’ll admit, when I first heard this phrase – tolerating calm – it sounded odd; almost an oxymoron.  What’s to tolerate?  It’s… calm. Calm itself can be quite pleasant.  The young folk might use the word “chill” (or at least they did at some point; I can’t keep up with…

It's just in your head.

It’s Just In Your Head

Last week I wrote about thoughts, feelings and sensations which can be inaccurate, irrational, or plain old wrong; and cause us problems. Here’s the thing. While misleading; they are not trivial.  Trivial stressful thoughts and feelings do happen, of course, and we shrug them off and go about our day.  It’s the un-shruggable ones that…